Resolution or Revolution?
During the month of January, so many of us embark upon new habits of self-care and wellness in the spirit of the well-known “New Year’s Resolution.” These resolutions may range from new physical fitness and nutrition commitments to promises of communicating with loved ones more frequently or more calmly. My own self-disclosure and confession—I have started “New Year’s Resolutions” only [...]
The Journey of Change One Step at a Time
“How long will I be in counseling?” This is a question that is often asked when someone is starting in therapy. It is a tough one to answer. The short answer is that it is different for every person. The long answer has to do with various factors such as commitment, support, time, and depth of a problem, [...]
Be Thou My Vision
We often do not know what other people are experiencing. And I do not mean just what they are thinking cognitively, or feeling emotionally, I mean, we literally do not know what they see, what they hear, how fast their body reacts to stimuli, how they experience color, sound, sensation, pain. We tend to think just because we have a [...]
A Soapbox Worth Standing On
Having come to learn more about our “Corrections” system (in quotations by purpose) than I ever would care to; I have also come to know that some of the things that were negative assumptions of mine about the “Justice” system, are in fact true. How many of you out there believe that the corrections system in this country serves to [...]
The Brain-Healing Power of a Purposeless Moment
My brain’s default mode is to wander, aimlessly, luxuriously, into a daydream. In fact, I think this came up once or twice on an early elementary school report card: “tends to daydream”. I think I got a check instead of a plus in one of the columns because of that. Someone about that same time called me lazy, [...]
I Take Care How I Speak To Myself Because I am Listening
You watch as your sweet baby readies herself to take her first tentative steps in your direction. She wants so much to get to you, and she’s been almost ready to walk for several days. She holds on to the edge of the couch, looks at you with eyes shining and a big grin on her face. You wait a [...]